Topic – Dowry system in India , why ?
India, a country where you will found lots of traditions, celebrations because of its diversified culture. Being an Indian, I am always overwhelmed with India’s ancient history & culture. But with timing , there are few traditions which need to be changed and one of the tradition is Dowry system in indian marriage system.
Though according to Indian law ” THE DOWRY PROHIBITION ACT, 1961, (Act No. 28 of 1961) ” , giving & accepting is a crime but still people here are never failed to commit this crime . Few individuals consider it as symbol of living standard but how ?
According to my little reasearch , This dowry system in ancient times was applicable for women to give a financial security after marriage & bride’s family provided groom with dowry which would be registered in the bride’s name.
In few locations , dowry was considered to be part of gift from bride’s family to groom. Over time, the whole definition has been modified and now Dowry is a compulsion for families which leads to other crimes as well.
As per Indian marriage system, bride has to leave her family so that she can be a part of Groom’s family. After marriage, a woman dedicate her life sacrificing her passion, her career to become a good Wife, daughter-in-law & later on a good mother for which she should be appreciated & rewarded. If the woman is leaving everything behind including her family who has invested their emotions, finance for their daughter for many years then why should she suppose to pay dowry . Because of these reasons, most of the families in india don’t wish for a girl child. According to them , even if they invest on her studies & for her better life , at the end they are going to let their daughter away after marriage along with their savings for the sake of traditions . And suppose, the woman is independent then along with Dowry , she has to share her complete earning to her in-laws & her own family has no right to ask for financial support. Can we flip the scenario & understand the situation ? if the same would happen with the men then they might have understood ,why it’s necessary to say No to Dowry system & then we all will be able to save girl child .
I heard this sentence from lots of Groom’s family ” we have invested so much for our son then why shouldn’t we expect Dowry ?” , So I have a question to all those parents ” you have invested on your son to provide him a better life being a parent & that’s your responsibility or you have invested so much on him just to grab money & property from others on your son’s name. Incase you have received money or property which is the price of your son ( as invested ) then your son has been sold & you shouldn’t have any right on your Son.“
If groom’s parent investment matters then why not for Bride ?
Because of this dowry system, many brides have been killed & death rates has been increased 19% to 21% . People now-a-days are so hypocrites, while they talk about growth, education, liberal values, socity status & luxury lifestyles and in other way they demand for Dowry which is a crime & never accept to stop this tradition for a better change.
In this century when we all are talking about developed countries , first of all we need to stop these traditions as it’s a barrier for making our country to be developed.
So Stop Dowry system so that we don’t have to promote this slogan of “save girl child” anymore.
Written by Prabhamayee Parida
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